Those of you who are my Facebook friends as well as blog readers will know that earlier this week, I was challenged in one of these ‘do one thing every day that scares you’ type of micro-bullying, facebook, chain-letter landing misery pots.
I don’t mean to sound churlish about it (haha) it’s just that, as I said to Holden, who had been kind enough to nominate me, (following his own nomination), I’m quite happy IN my comfort zone thank you.
I didn’t want to seem mean-spirited or ‘chicken’ though, so I thought I would enter into the spirit of it and have a go. Only time will tell if I am successful. The first of my challenges was to post a rl selfie, which I did and everyone was nice and nobody accused me of having had a face-lift or having nicked someone else’s image a la Catfish, so that was all good.
The next thing I decided to do was suggest going shopping on Second Life to Thom. I love shopping on SL. I like it on marketplace, I like it in-world, I like it at events, I just darn well like it. And, what’s more, I’ve gotten pretty good at it too. I can spend money and acquire clothes, shoes, hair and other miscellaneous items like nobody’s business.
Thom is rather more reserved in this way (and some would say, in other ways too). Thom has some requirements that must be met for him to truly love an item.
a) It must fit him very well, like it was made for him
b) It must be completely his style, like it was made for him
c) It must not be seen on anyone else, like it was made for him
d) are you spotting a pattern here?
It can make shopping trips with him something of a drawn out and painful process. I know, you think I must be exaggerating, so I documented some of it for your entertainment. I’m going to edit it down or we’ll be here all day, by the way. We arrived at The Mens Dept…
Meri: just rezzing
Thom: me too .. slowly
Meri: okies these henleys look quite nice, near the door
Thom: henleys ?
Meri: simple soft long sleeved tee with a button neck
Meri: called henleys
Thom: lol i never knew that
Meri: i think it’s an americanism, but they are often nice in rl anyway
Thom: not bad
Thom: what colour ?
Meri: well you should try the demo hun
Thom: just got it
Thom: i’ll put it on now
Meri: i like the blue of course, the pale grey, the green and the yellow is strangely attractive too
Thom: ok it’s boxed
Meri: might be a bag, try adding
Meri: now click it or it might send automatically
Thom: ok i have a triangle
Thom: now rezzed
Thom: not bad
Meri: is it too big?
Thom: yeah a bit
Meri: nice around neck and shoulders
Meri: does it come with sizes?
Thom: not as a demo no
Meri: no, that probably means it’s fitted mesh
Meri: ie. it fits to your body size
Meri: probably why it looks nice up top
Meri: it’s you shaped
Thom: ok shall we look for some more ?
Meri: yeah lets wander around
So sweet reader, I thought it had gone pretty well so far. Just inside the door and already he’s tried on one thing and declared it ‘not bad’.
Meri: i see something i like
Meri: that denim jacket and top combo – coco is usually excellent
Thom: nah a bit to geeky for me
Meri: you don’t trust me to even try it?
Meri: aww you’re wonderful
Thom: not bad this
Meri: no, i like the message (it said ‘blink if you want me’)
Meri: blinks a lot
Thom: i would wear this
Meri: the darker jacket looked better
Meri: i think it comes with both tees anyway
Meri: would you?
Meri: sometimes things look better on you than on the poster hun
Thom: oh it’s like a waistcoat (he tried a second version on)
Meri: only that colour, the last one wasn’t
Meri: not a waistcoat but with contrasting sleeves, i don’t like that one as much
Thom: ok what next ?
Meri: dunno, let’s look
Reader… I’m beginning to worry at this point. Words like ‘waistcoat’ are a death knell to Thom who refuses to wear anything without sleeves. Ever. Even as an overlayer.
Meri: i see a moon display – moon is my fave hair
Meri: and she has begun doing mens hair, so I want to see
Thom: lol, i suspect that’s why we are here (Thom is suspicious of my motives related to hair, always)
Meri: no babes lol
Meri: we’re here because this is a place that brings together good designers under one roof, thus saving lots of time
Thom: ppl are starting to smoke pipes (one of the hair pictures has a man smoking a pipe – Thom smokes a pipe in sl)
Meri: so you hate them and don’t want to try them?
Thom: oh come on
Thom: they are bad
Meri: you’re judging them solely on the avatars
Thom: no the pics
Thom: they look comical
Meri: but i’ve not seen them on a real person, but no worries hun
Thom: ok ok
Meri: i know, you only like one hair in sl and you have it 🙂
Thom: i’ll try the one on the left
Thom: ok got it
Thom: do i have to wear it here ?
Gah! By this time, I’m pulling my own carefully chosen hair out. Thom’s normal hair is nice, I like it, it suits him, but he’s had it since I met him back in 2008. I admit, it was the best hair in 2008 and I’ve not seen loads of men’s hair in SL I’ve liked since, but I did make him try one on, in Dura a few months ago, that I liked a lot and he liked a bit… well, nearly. Anyway, I’m digressing. Back to The Mens Dept.
Meri: This is fabulous
Meri: this can be my next ‘out of my comfort zone’ thing, hahaha
Thom: what hun ?
Meri: hmm shopping with you feels a bit like getting Andrew to have his hair washed when he was 7 (Andrew is my nephew)
Meri: like i’m making you do something horrid 🙂
Meri: agh jesus
Meri: that picture behind you of the tattoo guys, they are a horrible shape
Thom: yes i’m just looking
Thom: ok to the left ? or right?
Meri: i think they are the same shape, but the guy on the left looks really odd around his midsection
Thom: no i meant shopping direction doof
Meri: i will follow you shall i?
(10 seconds later after vaguely wandering up an aisle…)
Thom: nope it’s all pretty crap
Meri: well we’ve seen half
Thom: mesh ears hun, for men
Meri: ooh be there in a sec, got a demo yet?
Thom: yes, I got ‘em, I’ll play with them later
Thom: only 275
Meri: you ever feel like you’d like new trainers ?
Meri: casual wear kinda
Meri: seen anything else you’d like to buy while you were here?
Thom: not clotheswise
Thom: how about you ?
Meri: well it’s mens stuff hun
Meri: i liked the dark coco jacket, but has to be up to you and what you’d like to wear
Thom: well that guy with the cap has it on… says it all
Meri: he has the mid coloured one with the black sleeves, which I don’t like
Meri: but yes, he’s a moron
Thom: there isn’t much here though
Meri: no, not for your taste
Thom: you girls have it so easy, and you have mesh bodies
Meri: come on then, let’s go home
Thom: ok let’s go home and yank my ears
Yup, us girls have it easy… for sure. As I pointed out to him AN HOUR AND A HALF LATER when he was still camming his new ears and examining the new hair he finally bought from Dura with one arm shoved up his back, on the condition I understood it was an alternative hair only, and he might go back to his old one any time at all – any time!
I know some couples love to shop together, but basically, I prefer to shop alone. ‘Cus he is a P.I.T.A. when it comes to dressing or changing Thom at all.
P.S. I love you hunny.
P.P.S. Did you think you’d get me this far out of my comfort zone Holden? Nope, me neither.